Verbal Abuse & It’s Impact On Personality Development

Abstract

A common childhood proverb goes, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never harm me." Is it possible for words to cause as much damage as a physical assault? It's as normal as feeling pain when you're struck by a brick to feel pain caused by words (Elgin, 1995). Verbal abuse and how it effects a growing child has unbelievable results. Things we take light as a feather can cause drastic changes in one’s personality. Verbal abuse directly effects the mind, and mind is connected to the body. When mind doesn’t get the desired peace by the closest of people or the society, body starts to shrink invisibly. When body doesn’t get the required energy it starts to appear in the personality. Everything is interconnected and has a meaning so everything must be taken care of. Hanging up one's hat in disappointment, worries and crises don't allow us to analyze the situation and we end up burning in anger affecting the people of our surroundings too. The act of being patient is a lesson Islam teaches all of us and to go with it individually or collectively would lead us to promote the peace in society. Can we change the way how others react? Certainly not. But we can change the way we perceive things that would lead us towards a peaceful life. Coming towards morals, We merely know the definition of morals and that you feel good after and what immoral is what you feel bad after. When it comes to verbal Abuse, words get the most importance because this is where the problem starts in the first place; mouth. Words leave an ever lasting impact and other has no idea about the intensity of the impact. It is necessary to know that morals and ethics are two different things, ethics are those principles connected to person’s behaviour. Ethics are the home of religion. You could also describe ethics as moral philosophy or a code of moral practices. When a person learns to be ethical, it learns to be human. The aim of the study was to explain, with the goal of learning, the real-life, in-themoment experiences of people who were verbally abused as children and later as adults, as well as the meanings provided to those experiences. The issue begins in childhood. There was a need to figure out what was causing the verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has also been studied considered as one form of mental abuse that connects with human psychology, comes with a combination of sexual and psychological abuse in previous research. In order to learn and understand how the psychology of verbal abuse and violence works, this report used an axiological perspective-based analysis approach to focus solely on the meaning and effects of verbal abuse. Three adult women and two men who were verbally abused as children, including a man and woman who were verbally abused as adults but are coping effectively despite their traumatic childhood experiences, were interviewed. Following repeatedreadings of these five people's accounts. The question was raised as to whether or not these individuals may be the source of abusive behaviour, and the answer was yes. The findings of the report contributes In understanding what childhood verbal abuse is and where the problem lies. This research was in advantage of raising awareness about how damaging this type could be to one’s self-concept. Participation in the field of psychotherapy as an pubescent appears to plays vital role in breaking the non-adjustable cycle of verbal violence. Quantitative research methodology that includes interviews and questionnaires were adopted for this study. As a result of counselling and assistance, the mother who is most responsible for the nourishment of a child may become aware of the type of abuse and it’s history of how this kind of abuse and Violence kills a person slowly and steady. Around the world, Counselors are being trained to recognise the signs of verbal, psychological and few or the major signs of physical abuse. So they could come up with better solutions. It has definitely been ignored to pay right amount of attention to the issue of verbal abuse. But awareness could come at any stage in life. The findings indicate that, childhood verbal violence can have negative effects on the individual and can have drastic personality changes and disadvantages. But personality changes doesn’t mean we stop looking for solutions to amend what has been wronged. Why not one tries to learn how to be resilient and appear stronger for their own future. Past needs to be in the past but future doesn’t need to be on stake for what has happened in the past. Future studies on how mind effects body and what relationship does it have as well as age-related factors will be beneficial. Psychological mistreatment with youngsters has consistently remained unsuitable and ignored yet social standards should also be thought of. Practices that might be oppressive in certain societies could be satisfactory in others and may not be destructive on the off chance that they don't include the supplanting of adoration with dismissal and withdrawal. At the point when the conduct toward the kid passes on the way of life explicit message of dismissal or when it hinders the improvement of confidence, then, at that point it is psychological mistreatment, whatever the family's social standards (Hamarman and Bernet 2000).